Self Care Within the Thick of Motherhood


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Self Care In the Thick of Motherhood


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I’m discovering it extra practical for me to jot down two weblog posts a month if I’m writing extra way of life & motherhood posts versus posts that dive into the science and require me to do numerous studying on PubMed and cite references. I’d like to get again to that place within the subsequent few months, however proper now it feels higher for me to jot down “less science-y” posts however nonetheless write (as a result of I take pleasure in it) versus not write in any respect as a result of I don’t have sufficient time. So, I hope you’re having fun with these posts. And in case you’re ready for the latter sort of posts, I’ll get there in some unspecified time in the future!

Being mama to 2 below two the previous few months has proved to be each extremely satisfying and at instances, extremely difficult for me. I journey the rollercoaster of “I’m crushing it …and I’m failing and all is chaos” each day.

I firmly stand within the camp of going from 0-1 being a lot, a lot simpler than going from 1-2. I do know some mothers really feel the other, however man not me. And I’ve nonetheless acquired a pair months left earlier than Cal turns two.

I’ve discovered extra endurance and beauty and compassion for each my infants and myself over the previous 12 weeks than another level in my motherhood journey. And I’ve additionally discovered to shift my mindset round what productive means and what self care means.


Once I lay my head down at evening to go to mattress, I be ok with how our day went if I really feel like I used to be capable of be current and emotionally out there (inside my human limitations) to each boys in the course of the day. And my coronary heart feels most settled if I’ve gotten a strong chunk of 1 on one time with simply Cal. To like on him and be his mama with out having to concurrently nurse or maintain or soothe Teddy. Generally I solely get 10-20 minutes of 1 on one time, however I attempt for a strong chunk each day. I’ve discovered we each want it.

Now with two tiny people to look after, I’ve discovered {that a} productive day doesn’t imply I’ve checked off my to-do checklist or I’ve exercised or my home is clear. However I do should battle the temptation to make that my each day definition of productiveness as a result of that definition causes me to understand my infants as roadblocks to my day as an alternative of my most necessary work.

As a substitute, I’ve been working in direction of defining a productive day as one the place I used to be current and engaged, gracious and affected person. I would like my boys to see me as a joyful mother. A mother that strikes by life with a glass half full mindset. I’m studying that my angle can actually set the tone of our complete dwelling. That doesn’t imply I’m not human and I can’t have all kinds of feelings, however the way in which I deal with powerful or sudden conditions issues. Loads.

Self care

Self care earlier than Teddy was born was simpler to return by. I had a complete, wonderful three hour nap each day the place I used to be off obligation so to talk. However now, I’m fortunate to have Teddy sleeping in our room (vs on me) for longer than 20 minutes throughout Cal’s afternoon nap. So self care seems to be much more small and seemingly trivial nowadays. However I’m studying that even the only of issues can actually assist me really feel extra cared for every day. And that has large impacts on how I’m feeling as a mother.

1. Stretching

My physique straight up aches on the finish of most days. Particularly if I’ve been carrying Teddy for a lot of the day. Between the newborn carrying and nursing and carrying/selecting up/chasing Cal and lugging round child gear, this physique feels tight and overwhelmed up by the tip of the day. I’ve been making an attempt to do 5-10 minutes of stretching on the finish of the day (I like utilizing the Momma Strong stretching movies since they're centered on the stretches mamas want most) and once I do, it makes SUCH a distinction in how I really feel.

2. a day latte

I’m making an attempt to stay to only one cup of espresso within the morning after which one barely caffeinated drink within the early afternoon. A lot simpler mentioned than carried out throughout new child life once I need ALL THE COFFEE. We have been gifted a Nespresso machine for our marriage ceremony and it’s one among my favourite kitchen gadgets we've. Nearly each afternoon I’ll make a home made iced latte utilizing only one pod since that’s not a ton of caffeine (a google search advised me there’s 60mg in a single pod) plus home made almond milk (I do know, I’m making home made almond milk. what on this planet. but it surely’s really easy and so tasty) and plenty of creamer and a hefty glug of maple syrup to sweeten as a result of I’m too lazy to make easy syrup.

If Teddy is sleeping on me we go for a stroll outdoors (Nick works from dwelling so he’s there whereas Cal naps) and I take heed to a podcast and drink my latte. If Teddy is sleeping off of me I’ll sit all the way down to learn or write whereas I drink it. Most instances I even have some form of baked good Cal and I made that week or chocolate with it. This easy espresso hour makes me so joyful.

3. Ice in my water

A mother pal of mine talked about this to me as a part of her self care a number of weeks in the past and I believed, “Wait, WHY do I make myself drink lukewarm water??” It takes 5 seconds to place ice in my water, but it surely makes ingesting water 946 instances extra satisfying. Particularly with breastfeeding, I'm at all times thirsty. That is so easy it sounds dumb sharing however wow, it issues to me. So ice in my water. It’s making my life higher.

4. Happening a stroll with each boys within the stroller

We reside in a really walkable space of Charlottesville so we nonetheless have one automotive and our stroller serves as our second automotive. Due to this fact, I've each boys within the stroller to go locations each day.

However past transportation, I used to really feel responsible for having Cal within the stroller merely for the sake of “going on a walk” as a result of he was confined and he was a child and is now a toddler with a HIGH want for motion. And with Teddy, I attempt to keep away from having him sleep or sit within the carseat as a lot as attainable since I don’t assume that place is the most effective to be in for lengthy durations of time. We do have a bassinet that attaches to the stroller, however he’s not an enormous fan and prefers to sit down upright within the carseat. Sure, I'm as loopy as I sound and Nick rolls his eyes at me once I speak about this matter lol. There are clearly greater fish to fry in relation to parenting.

My level: typically I want to securely include each infants and go on a stroll not for his or her enjoyment, however for the sake of my sanity. Even when which means Cal doesn’t get to burn off power and Teddy sits in or falls asleep in a crunched up place.

Perhaps for you, which means you activate the iPad or TV when you take a breather. Otherwise you skip the bedtime tub though your toddler is roofed in a crust of Lord solely is aware of what. Otherwise you feed your child two pouches you pulled off the shelf and pays for if you take a look at and name it lunch as you rush by the aisles of Goal (been there) as a result of that’s what's saving your sanity.

I notice happening a stroll with each my children strapped within the stroller may appear so silly, however for some cause I really feel mother guilt once I try this and I believe the guilt is misplaced so I’m working towards that. As a result of on the finish of the day when issues are unraveling, strapping them each within the stroller and happening a stroll outdoors helps me look after myself. And keep sane.

That’s how I’m defining self care on this season. Whether or not you’re recovering from an consuming dysfunction, navigating being pregnant, studying to simply accept your pure physique dimension, making an attempt to conceive, making it by new child life or any and in all places in between – I’d love to listen to the way you’re caring for your self or need to look after your self within the feedback. And as at all times, thanks for being right here!



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